It’s been almost six weeks since my beautiful baby girl Kavya arrived, and I love every minute I’ve spent with her. But I have to say, it does feel like I’ve spent every minute of the last six weeks with her.
I didn’t really notice it in the first few weeks after she was born, since I had my mom, my mother-in-law, and various other relatives around to help me out.
But now that my husband and I are trying to settle in to our everyday, back-to-work — he out there in the world teaching college kids, me here at home blogging for sites like CafeMom and MSN — just-the-three-of-us routine, it’s exhausting. I mean, in the idyllic parenting vision in my head, I’d be able to squeeze in my career work, my novel writing spurts, and quality time with baby Kavi and my husband, all while prepping gourmet meals and keeping our new home immaculate. Admittedly, that’s very typical of my occasionally high-strung personality.
And my sister-in-law, who’s mom to a 16-month-old, tried to clue me in when she came to visit from California. Our new home is semi-unpacked, but mostly still chaotic, so she kindly offered to organize the kitchen for me. And of course I wanted to do everything myself. But I’m now learning that it just might be impossible — and that it’s stupid not to take the help when it’s offered. Boy do I appreciate that spotless, smartly organized kitchen now that she’s gone.
Because new mommyhood is a lot more time consuming than I expected — especially breastfeeding — even with my husband splitting the load. In fact, I will shamefully admit, some days I can’t even find time to squeeze in a shower. And when I say days, I mean like, one, two, and once even three days in a row. Not my most shining moment, I know, but my gracious husband still managed to refrain from saying anything.
How do new moms find time to bathe? I’d really like to know.
Photo by Navdeep Singh Dhillon